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My family's changing
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G E T T I N G   A L O N G

You don't like your Mum's boyfriend, or you and his children just don't get on. You know you're stuck with them even though you wish you weren't. What can you do?

H E L P   T I P S

» Keep busy. Being with your friends and doing something you really like can help you get through tough times.

» Always be yourself. Don't try to change the way you are to please other people. Take time to get to know them. You may find you like some of the same things.

» Think of at least one good thing about each person.

» Try to think about things from the other person's point of view. If your stepsister is really whingey, or your stepbrother locks himself in his room all evening, perhaps they're unhappy about being part of a new family, too.

» Remember, you don't have to love everyone, but in time 
you may end up liking them.

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sharing your space

You may have to get used to living with new people. What's it like?

“At first, it was a nightmare having to live with them when you didn't even know them”
Charlotte, age 12

“Although I'm not at my Dad's all the time, I feel at home because I keep my own stuff there.”
Emma, age 14

“They have rules that you don't understand or are not used to.”
Sian, age 14

 

T I P S

Keep some of your favourite things around you to make you feel happier.

Don't feel you have to get rid of any things even if they make your Mum or Dad upset. Explain to them that they make YOU feel better.

If you can't have your own room, make sure you have a space to keep your own things.

it's all in a
name

Imagine your Mum or Dad has a new boyfriend or girlfriend. Perhaps your Mum or Dad is getting remarried or maybe your Mum or Dad's new husband or wife and kids are going to come and live with you.What do you call them? And how do you describe them to your friends? 

“I call my Mum's boyfriend Uncle Sylvester. I know he's not my real Uncle or anything but we like it.”
Jamal, age 6

“It winds me up when my stepsister calls my Dad, Dad. He's my Dad, not hers.” 
Leon, age 9

“I call Winston by his name. Although he's like a father figure, he's not my Dad.”
Matt, age 15

“I wanted to have the same surname as my Mum, stepdad and stepbrother. It's great now it's changed because I'm higher up on the register.“
Ellie, age 14

 

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